Get out there and make your own path! If I could go back in time and tell my younger self a secret, it would be stop waiting, get out there, and make your own path. There is an industry built on helping people find the answers. My articles, my lectures, and classes are about helping people find answers. At the end of the day though you must fond your own answers. The road to where I am now, sucked. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone, but I needed it. I talk about my past so that young men today can avoid the same mistakes and stupidity that almost ended me.
My path is my own. I am working everyday to continue that path, to follow it to the end. I’m writing this on Saturday morning when I could be sleeping, watching TV, and drinking beer, but my path demands I work, that I create, and build. This is the path I chose, to get to where I need to be. Of all the people I follow and listen to right now Gary Vaynerchuk is probably my favorite because he’s preaching a message you don’t hear often today. Get off your ass, and go do your thing.
I think I should be clear that I’m not an expert on anything other than myself. I’ve wanted to be an expert in fitness. I dedicated a lot of time, money, and effort into coaching and training over the last 10 years. I think compared to a lot of the new voices lending their own views to fitness, I am an expert. Compared to the people I admire in fitness and follow, I’m the novice and that’s okay. There’s something cool about being a novice and understanding that you still have a long way to go. Something I’ve learned to admire in many of my mentors is that they’re still learning, still working, and still trying to master their trade. They haven’t arrived, they’re still building that path and walking it.
Stop trying to find your path, it’s not lost. It’s not some undiscovered land waiting for you to claim it for your own. I love it when young people tell me that they’re looking for their purpose. They go to school to figure things out and find their way. They’re stalling. I’ve bought every decent self-help success book to come down the pike in the last 15 years. I’ve read some inspiring stuff, wrote down a lot of quotes, visualized, set goals, and developed plans, and it got me no where! It wasn’t until I began taking action and steps forward on my own that my path began to unravel before me.
Now I’m on the path to being a “real man.” What is that? Honestly I don’t know that’s what I’m trying to figure out. That’s what this blog is becoming; a chronicle of building that path. I could read about manhood, and compare stories, and very likely compile a definitive list of attributes and package them into a book that would sell millions. Maybe I still will, but not until I go and see for myself. That’s the other thing I would tell my younger self. Stop letting other people tell you, what is and isn’t. Get out there and decide for yourself. When you let other people tell you how it is, you also let them decide your path for you. You let them choose your role in this world. I think the first attribute of real manhood is to walk your own path, regardless and uncaring of what others may think about it.