It’s been nearly a week and a half since I last posted an article on here. Rest assured it’s not because I have nothing to say or haven’t been working on anything. Here at Legion Fitness things are busier than ever. Next week we will be launching our online workout program and nutritional guide in cooperation with our partner site “Ingredients to Live By.” We’re also finalizing plans to open a gym here in the Nashville metro area. The more successful I become the more I find my time split between many projects and demands. I’m not complaining though but grateful. Not long ago I had nothing but time on my hands and nothing to do with it. It’s an exciting time.
This past week I had to make some hard decisions about the company I keep; not only in person but online. Over the years as I have built my dreams I have realized that often the hardest roadblocks to success are the friendships we keep. Online it is easy to fill your life with so-called friends who share similar passions and hobbies. Are they really your friends though? With few exceptions they are not. I have built some good relationships through Facebook and made some valuable connections that will only help me in the months and years ahead but unfortunately I have also filled my circle with garbage that needed to be dumped.
I don’t use the word garbage to be spiteful or insulting but to convey the simple truth of the matter. Too many of us have surrounded ourselves with clutter; people who fill our minds with pollution and distract us from our purpose and true goal. They pull us down not just with their negativity but with their poisonous actions and the way they constantly anger us. To put it bluntly if you desire to be a person of character you cannot surround yourself with those who have none. People who wish to stand for something; to shine through the darkness of jaded philosophy and to stand apart from the sheep of this world cannot allow those with no integrity to fill their thoughts.
I have long known that I am an arrogant and uncompromising man. I feel little need to prove myself to others and have little patience for people who cannot be relied on to do what they say or back up their bragging. Most of all I cannot abide to be around people who have no backbone or principles. I hate those whose values shift constantly in the wind of popularity and trends. I despise those who are afraid to speak their mind and whisper insults in secret while bowing and scraping in person. You can usually identify these people by their constant need to exaggerate their accomplishments in an unending game of one-upmanship. Everything you do; they can do better. Anything you like, they like too as long as you are listening, then at first chance they will cut your throat if it gets them closer to those in power or in charge of what they want.
Facebook is filled with these people and as people of character we must strive to shake loose of their grip and detach ourselves from their misery. I refuse to be part of anything that will not stand for its own values and principles. I refuse to quiet my criticism of what I know to be deceitful and false in order to gain popularity and support. If I do not like you, you will know it. You will not receive my praise and false friendship while I plot behind you and run your name through the mud to others. I have little to fear from anyone in this world and will not hide behind a mask of lies. I will not hide my face behind the picture of my children while slinging obscene jokes and foul comments on Facebook. I will not tout my victories to cover up my many failures and shout down anyone who calls me on my bullshit, or simply demands some levity and truth.
I believe in few things in this world, but those that I do I support all the way and will not back down or be persuaded to abandon them for convenience. I am a man of my word. I do what I say and say what I mean. My character may be harsh at times, judgmental at others, uncompromising, unfair, and even old-fashioned but it is character nonetheless and I would not change it. Our integrity as people is all we really have that cannot be taken away. If our allegiances and beliefs can be bought and sold what does that say about our souls? In a world where men of principle, reliability, and integrity are in such short supply why do so many sell theirs for so little?
I am a personal trainer by profession, a warrior by calling, and a teacher by choice. Above all that; I am a human being struggling to make this world better for my species. It may sound simple and quaint but I do not believe there is a nobler calling in all the world or a more worthy goal. One day I will have children and the world they inherit will largely be determined by my actions and choices. They way they see the world before their eyes will depend on what I teach them about it, and show them how to look at it. That starts today with my own views and stance on things.
I try to show my clients a different way to see things so that they can live differently and experience the world in ways they thought impossible. That begins with their character. I teach them the character and strength of will I learned as a Marine, not to impress them but to share with them the knowledge that who we are; starts with what we say not only to others but to ourselves. Who we are and what we stand for is much more important than what races we have won, how many miles we can run, or how much weight we can lift. True strength comes from character and integrity. If people cannot rely on you to keep your word and remain steadfast then what are you?